How Social Media Can Affect Your Case

Social Media & Divorce

by Attorney Scott Montgomery

We’ve all heard cautionary tales of job seekers having been denied positions or promotions due to questionable online activity, including dubious pictures or postings. However, few of us consider the potential effect social media and digital communications can have on family law and divorce proceedings. A misguided Facebook post or tweet can have implications far beyond the immediate by creating unforeseen complications in your divorce settlement negotiations.

While communicating online can be fun and useful, choose the information you share very carefully. Not every one of your “friends” is really a friend and when a marriage dissolves; people tend to choose sides. The simplest interactions can be misinterpreted and skewed against you.

Divorce attorneys routinely scour social media when searching for evidence in support of their clients. In fact, a large majority of family law attorneys report that they have used information gained from social media to the benefit of their client against the other spouse. For example, I recently used the résumé information posted to LinkeIn by my client’s ex-husband to assist our own vocational expert in producing a report of the husband’s earning capacity that we used against him in court. This proved much easier and less expensive for my client than using discovery techniques available through the court process.

Suppress the Need to Share News – Good or Otherwise

Facebook posts and tweets can be deceptive. For example, an innocent picture taken on the ski slopes of Aspen Colorado may suggest that you should pay more spousal support than you really can afford. Even if this was only a one-time special trip, it could affect the judge’s opinion who is determining your ability to pay support.  A picture is worth a thousand words.

As another example, others may view a photo of you and a friend out on the town as evidence of an extramarital relationship, even if there was nothing of the sort.

Despite the fact that you’ve blocked your spouse from your social media account, word will get back to him or her.  This is the design of social networks – - – many eyes see your posts.

Remember, Your Posts Are Admissible In Court

Don’t let your emotions get the best of you. There is an immediacy to social media, lending itself to a more visceral interaction. We tend to say things in the heat of the moment that, given time for thought, we would choose not to share.

Posting negative information or comments regarding your spouse is never a good idea. If any are proven to be untrue, you may face a libel suit. Even if your comments are accurate, the courts generally discourage online sparring, particularly when child custody is involved.

Impromptu thoughts and comments could come back to haunt you. For example, if you are willing to post negative comments about the other parent online, in a forum visible to many people, the judge deciding custody of your child is much more likely to believe that you will speak negatively of the other parent in the presence of the child – - – this could easily hurt your child custody case.

If You Must Post, Follow a Few Simple Rules

The most effective way to ensure that social media does not damage your case is to stop using it all together – at least for the duration of the divorce proceedings. However, unless you want to find out firsthand how social media can affect your divorce, we suggest that you:

  • Change your privacy settings and block your soon to be ex. Your spouse’s attorney will likely be monitoring your social media accounts and will most certainly discover past comments, regardless of these changes. However, you’ll want to limit the damage as much as possible moving forward.
  • Assume that your spouse has access to your account, even if you are no longer “friends”  online.  Changing your privacy settings can help limit your online exposure. However, remember that even if you block your spouse from directly accessing your social media posts, all that it takes is one mutual friend or acquaintance that still has access to your posts to forward this information to your ex.
  • Do not post anything while angry or frustrated. Sit back and think carefully before you post anything. Consider how your post is likely to reflect on your character. Your spouse’s attorney and the court can read anything you post – and very well may. Assume that anything you post will be read by the judge presiding over your case.
  • Do not post anything you would be uncomfortable having your children read. Tweets and posts are forever. Should you act rashly, you could come to regret it years from now.
  • Avoid social sites that encourage flirting such as dating sites.  For example, if you have an online dating profile where you list yourself as not having any children, imagine how this could be turned against you by the other parent’s attorney in a child custody dispute. If you are seeking alimony, online evidence suggesting an extra-marital relationship existing prior to your date of separation could damage or destroy your claim for alimony.
  • If you must discuss your divorce, keep it off-line. Visit friends, talk on the telephone, or discuss your issues in a venue that provides some element of control over who is consuming your message. And remember – the walls have ears.

How Can Social Media Affect My Divorce

The safest and most effective way to avoid collateral damage from activity on Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Instagram, etc., is to abstain all together from using social media – at least until the divorce proceedings have concluded. Short of abstinence, try following the guidelines above and use extreme caution before posting any information about yourself, updates regarding your career, new purchases, or anything that could be skewed against you to affect your spousal support, child custody or child support case. We always advise our clients to be honest with the court. However, even the appearance of impropriety could damage your case. Do not paint yourself in a negative light.

Should You Have Any Doubt, Ask Your Attorney

Should you have any questions regarding the perceived impropriety of any social media interaction, contact your attorney before hitting the “send” button. Get his or her opinion before your spouse’s attorney provides one to you – one you don’t need or want to hear.  Contact Montgomery Family Law at (919) 335-3929 to speak with an experienced family law attorney equipped to answer your questions regarding divorce, spousal support and the ways in which social media can affect your divorce.

How Does Child Support Work in North Carolina?

Child Support

by Attorney Laura Esseesse

Both parents are responsible for providing child support in North Carolina. However, only the non-custodial parent must make support payments if this parent has less than 123 overnights per year with the child. In such cases, the custodial parent (the parent having more than 242 overnights with the child) is already assumed to be spending the required amount on the minor child directly. Payments typically continue until the child turns 18 or graduates from high school, whichever is last. Under no circumstances will child support continue beyond the minor’s 20th birthday.

In cases of shared physical custody, i.e., where each parent has at least 123 overnights with the child, child support is determined based on a formula that weighs the ratio of the parents’ incomes and the number of overnights that each parent has with the child.

How does child support work?

There are a number of key factors that determine the amount of one’s child support obligation.  These include, but are not limited to, the incomes of both parents, the number of children in need of support and the child custody arrangements. The calculation of one’s child support obligation is generally governed by the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines, published by the Conference of Chief District Court Judges (available on North Carolina’s Child Support Enforcement website). However, a court can deviate from this amount, should it find the child support amount to be inconsistent with the child’s needs or if it would otherwise be unjust or inappropriate. In actual practice, obtaining a deviation from the child support guidelines is typically quite difficult.

In addition to direct support payments to the other parent, a parent may also be obligated to contribute to child care costs and other expenses, including medical insurance coverage for the minor child.

When determining the amount of a child support obligation, the North Carolina Child Support guidelines consider income from any source, including (but not limited to) salary, bonuses and/or commissions, pension, or severance pay. Capital gains, annuity income, Social Security benefits, worker’s compensation income, alimony received from a former spouse, or even income attributable to the use of a company vehicle may also be used to determine the amount of child support due.

Income that may be excluded from the calculation of a child support obligation include support received for other children, food benefits, and other forms of general public assistance, just to name a few.

How do I calculate Child Support?

The state of North Carolina provides on-line worksheets to help determine the amount of support required by a parent. Custody issues must have been resolved, at least on a temporary basis, as the worksheets differ depending on the custody time arrangement that applies.

Can my child support amount be changed?

From time to time, the amount of child support as determined by these Guidelines may not meet the needs of the child.  If a parent wishes to change and modify the child support amount required, he or she can request a hearing with the assigned judge. The judge has the authority to adjust the amount of support up or down, depending on the evidence presented (and according to the Guidelines), so long as the judge is satisfied that a “substantial change” of circumstances has occurred since the entry of the existing order, i.e., the order that you are requesting to change. According to the North Carolina Child Support Guidelines, if the amount of child support ordered under the existing order is 15% different (more or less) than the suggested new amount, based on the changed incomes of the parties and/or relevant expenses of the child that may have changed, then the court will presume that the child support amount should be modified. In such case, the court will most likely change the child support amount ordered.     

How does child support work? At a time when you’re vulnerable both financially and emotionally, you need the advice of an experienced North Carolina attorney. At Montgomery Family Law, we’re ready to listen to your concerns, organize the crucial information, and help facilitate the best possible outcome for your unique situation. Call us today at (919) 335-3929 or use our contact form to arrange for an initial consultation.

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Understanding Post-Separation Support

Post-Separation Support

by Attorney Charles Montgomery

It costs more to run two households than it does to run one. It stands to reason that a dependent spouse may have problems making ends meet while going through the process of divorce. “Post-separation support” (temporary alimony) is a form of spousal support meant to bridge the gap between the time when one first separates from his or her spouse and obtaining long-term spousal support, called alimony.

What is post-separation support?

Post-separation support is temporary support awarded for a finite period of time, typically 12 months or until the time of the trial on alimony. Unlike the typical child support determination, the process through which post-separation support is determined can be quite subjective. Whereas the former is typically determined by a set formula based on incomes, the amount and duration of post-separation support is at the discretion of the court. While based primarily on financial grounds, a judge may also consider marital misconduct in determining the terms of post-separation support.

In North Carolina, spousal support is not intended to be punitive in nature but rather rehabilitative. When determining the terms of post-separation support (temporary alimony), an emphasis is placed on financial conditions as opposed to marital misconduct.

How can I get post-separation support?

Governed under the rules of statute NCGS § 50-16.2A, the following conditions must be met before an award of post-separation support will be granted:

  • The parties involved were lawfully married;
  • The party seeking support is a dependent spouse;
  • The party from whom support is sought is a supporting spouse;
  • The dependent spouse does not have the resources to meet his or her needs;
  • The supporting spouse has the ability to pay support.

If all of the above conditions are met, the court must award some amount of post-separation support; however, the amount is well within the discretion of the presiding judge. Further, the determination of what constitutes a “support spouse” and a “dependent spouse” is within the broad discretion of the judge, depending on the particular facts presented into evidence. Because post-separation support is temporary in nature, any such award is typically very difficult to appeal, as the North Carolina Court of Appeals in most cases considers such appeals “interlocutory” and not subject to being overturned.

For what period of time can I get post separation support?

While post-separation support (temporary alimony) typically runs until a predetermined period of time, the events below may trigger termination of post separation support payments:

  • The “dependent spouse” lands a job and is therefore able to meet his or her expenses;
  • The parties reconcile and resume a marital relationship;
  • The predetermined period of time elapses, typically 12 months or until the trial on alimony, whichever is sooner.

The divorce process can be confusing and needlessly stressful without the help of an experienced family law attorney. Not only is it important to have the support of friends, family, but also that of an experienced, knowledgeable divorce attorney. Charles H. Montgomery and Montgomery Family Law are there for those in need of wise counsel on matters of divorce and post-separation support, bringing a combined 45 years of family law experience for the benefit of our clients. To schedule an appointment to speak with one of our North Carolina family law attorneys, give us a call at (919) 335-3929.

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How Do I Change My Name After A Divorce?

Name Change After Divorce

by Attorney Scott Montgomery

While changing your name after a divorce might seem like the last of your concerns, you may choose to do so, as it can help bring closure. If you’ve asked yourself: “How do I change my name after my divorce?” there is no need to worry. It may seem complicated, but actually the process is fairly straightforward.

You may petition to change your name at the time of divorce in conjunction with the filed divorce complaint (by including this request in the complaint for divorce itself) or, alternatively, opt to do so at any point in time after the divorce decree has been finalized.  Resumption of your former name is available to both men and women (See N.C.G.S. §50-12). If you wish to resume use of your former name, you should let your divorce attorney know to include this request in the Complaint for Divorce, as this will save you the trouble of having to submit a separate name change request later.

Our state has a specific statute governing name change in conjunction withdivorce in North Carolina. The statute provides for one of these three options:

  • You can change your last name back to a maiden name
  • You can change your last name back to that of a previous deceased husband


  • You can change your last name to that of a former living husband, but only if the children from that marriage carry that last name.

If you do not include a proper request for resumption of your former name in the complaint for divorce, following the divorce, it will be necessary to complete an official “APPLICATION/NOTICE OF RESUMPTION OF FORMER NAME”  (form AOC-SP-600) and submit it to the Clerk of Court of the county in which you reside. The name change application form is available at your county courthouse. You can simply report to the Civil Division at the courthouse and request a copy from the Clerk of Court.

Where should I file my petition?

Once completed, the form must be returned to the Clerk’s Office, Civil Division, of the same courthouse. In addition to the completed form, you will be asked to provide a valid picture ID, a finalized divorce decree, and the required filing fee of $10.00.

Who must I notify of my name change?

Once the petition has been granted, there are a few additional steps you must take. For example, the change should be reflected in other important documents such as your driver’s license and social security card. Additionally, you should contact credit card companies and your utility providers to advise them of the change. Those who travel will want to be sure to change the name on their passport.

How do I change my name after a divorce?

Changing your name after a divorce is not as complicated as one might think. However, should you require the guidance of the experienced divorce attorneys at Montgomery Family Law, we’ll be happy to guide you through the process and help you navigate through any potential problems. Give us a call at (919) 335-3929 and arrange for a consultation today.

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How Do I File For a Divorce in North Carolina?

How Do I File For Divorce In NC

Let’s assume for a moment that you’ve met the minimum requirements for filing for divorce in North Carolina. You’ve been a resident of the state for 6 months and have lived apart from your spouse for at least one full year prior to the day that you file for divorce. At this point, you may be asking yourself…

What do I do now?

The process of divorce can be trying, even under the best of circumstances. Before proceeding, it is advised that you consult an attorney – one well versed in divorce and family law. Should you decide to move forward without legal representation, you will be expected to know the law to the same extent as a licensed attorney in the state of North Carolina. You’ll need to research and review applicable laws, familiarize yourself with civil procedure, and be able to apply what you’ve learned to your specific situation. Filing for divorce will require that you properly file and serve on your spouse a North Carolina Civil Summons and a Complaint for Divorce.  Service of these documents must be done in a manner acceptable under the North Carolina Rules of Civil Procedure.

After researching the applicable laws, you may have more questions than answers. Beware of legal advice provided by anyone other than a licensed attorney admitted to practice in North Carolina. Before you file for divorce, even if you eventually decide to file for divorce yourself, it is most advisable to consult with a North Carolina Family Law Attorney before you take any action. Call Montgomery Family Law today at (919) 335-3929.

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